I know the world is unjust. People die, bad things happen to good people. But Evan's story, is just heartbreaking. His mom Dawn is a member of the forums I frequent and I was shocked when she posted this yesterday morning:
A custody trial, without us able to fight for our son anymore, is expected in the next month or so. In the meantime, the biofather will get Evan for 3 weeks out of the next month... for one full week in two weeks, and then for two weeks in June... This IS a transition before a custody decision is ever made and it excludes Evan's birthmom entirely. This is a clear sign that the judge intends to give this man custody of our son. The judge did not care that Evan is three years old, only knows me and hubby as his parents, and has not had more than one supervised overnight a month with biofather.. and did not care to know how that once-a-month overnight went either. We had a videotapes of Evan telling us that biofather was hitting him (among other things) and we never got to play it for the judge.
I thought about it all day yesterday and I'm still confused and upset. Evan is not an object to be traded by the courts at the whim of laws and paper. He is a little 3 year old boy who loves his mommy and daddy. I can not imagine someone telling me that I had to give up one of my children to a complete stranger because a piece of paper wasn't filed or a law had been changed. It's insane that a judge decided Evan will be better off with his abusive, unemployed biological father over Dawn and Skip who have loved and cared for him since birth.
I'm mad at the courts and I'm very angry with the biological father. Donating sperm does not make one fit to be a parent. I don't believe that since he shares Evan's DNA, he has the right to disrupt the poor child's life. He left the biological mom when he knew she was pregnant, he gave up Evan right then in my opinion. There are no "take backs" when it comes to something as important as a child's well being.
Dawn, keep fighting the good fight. My prayers and thoughts are with you. I hope there is a sliver of justice reserved for Evan and you can soon put this nightmare behind you.
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